Feeling desperate to find yourself again?
It is truly awful to feel like that, but it doesn’t have to be like that for too long. There is a way out of the abyss, even though it feels like there isn’t.
But how? Your mind must be pressing for answers right now. Well, check out no-bullshit guide on how to rediscover yourself again. There is no going around the bush, fancy metaphors, no motivational quotes.
We simply cut to the chance and give straight answers. That’s why we call it a “No-Bullshit Guide”.
Keep on reading to find out how this works.
Where to Start?
Start by making a timeline of your life so far. Grab a pen and paper, and list your past accomplishments, your regrets, all the major highlights in your life, both good and bad.
When you write down the positive ones, stop for a moment, think how good you felt at that point, and all the great things that came from that.
When you are writing down the negative ones, think about the lessons and experience you’ve gained from that.
Next, create another list. This one needs to contain your dreams and goals.
This exercise is not just fun, but also very beneficial. It’s very popular with psychologists and life coaches trying to help people find their way once again. What’s great about it is that it gives you a structure, a sense of direction, and a new perspective on what your life is all about.
Once you are done with all that, you can turn towards other things. Here’s a list of practical exercises that will bring high dividends in your effort to reinvent yourself.
Take Responsibility and Accept Your Reality
The fact that you are reading this means that you’ve already done the first step in the right direction and that you are taking responsibility for your life. Recognize that you have strayed away from who you are and accept it.
It happened, and it is now time to do something about it, to get unstuck and move forward.
The point is not to live in the past. Let your self-acceptance be your ground zero from where a new you will rise. Get it in your head that anything is possible if you believe strong enough in it.
Dream Big, But Start Small
Norman Vincent Peale said it best, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars”.
The point is, there is nothing wrong with big dreams and you shouldn’t be frightened by their grandioseness. But big dreams take time, effort, and a lot of work in between.
Start with baby steps and celebrate every victory on your way up. Make sure that each of those steps leads in the same direction, closer to your dreams or you are a better, stronger person because of it.
Embrace a Healthy Lifestyle
The healthier you are, the better you will feel about yourself. We are not the car we drive or the clothes we wear, but our body which is part of us.
Open a clean slate, start eating healthy, exercise regularly, quite harmful vices such as heavy drinking and smoking, and clear your body of all the accumulated toxins.
The change will be almost immediate as you will feel more energized, you will look and feel better. Furthermore, you will have a clear mind. That will allow you to change your perspective of how you see things, how you do things, and most importantly how you feel about yourself.
That doesn’t mean you are cured, you are where you wanna be. But it is one hell of a start, a solid foundation to build on in your effort to find yourself once more.
Ask Yourself Questions
This is about opening an inner dialogue with your inner self. You don’t have to start asking fundamental questions like what’s my purpose in this world. Instead, start with less significant questions such as “What can I do today that will take me closer to my dreams?”, “How to schedule my day so that I can achieve more?”, or “What can I do to make me feel more accomplished?”
By asking yourself questions, you are improving your problem-solving skills. All that will eventually lead to finding yourself as a whole.
Find Time for Your Passion
Let’s be honest, not many of us can’t afford to make a living of what we are passionate about and that fulfill us to our core. Many of us work jobs that we don’t like, but often there is no other way to make a decent wage.
On the other hand, that doesn’t mean you can’t devote some time to doing something you are passionate about.
The best thing about passion projects is that you never know when it can turn into something valuable, something that can bring money in the same manner and quantity as it fills you up emotionally.
Making a living by doing what you love and for which you are passionate about is the very definition of success. When that happens you will know that you’ve arrived where you want to be. Your true nature will reveal itself and you won’t feel lost anymore.
Step Out of Comfort Zone
Routines, monotony, repetition, all that can only deepen your comfort zone which will make you feel even more lost. To start fixing that, start with baby steps.
For example, visit someplace you’ve never visited before, take music lessons, volunteer, re-connect with an old friend, things like that. You don’t have to go skydiving right away or do something majestic in your first attempt to get out of your comfort zone.
After a while, you will feel the courage to take even bolder steps that will take you further from your comfort zone. Soon enough you will able to think on your feet and deal with all sorts of unforeseen challenges.
The path to finding yourself doesn’t have to be a difficult one or full of challenges. All it takes is some discipline, determination, consistency, and trust in the process. The steps above might feel a bit generic, bit plain, and simplistic.
But, know that once you start applying them, they will feel overwhelmingly personal. As time passes, you will feel the change in your life. Just don’t stray away from the given blueprint and soon enough you will feel like reborn and thinking only of success.